Sunday, October 31, 2004
Gay men: the new 'babies & puppies'
While I was working out, a thought crossed my mind. Here I was, doing sit-ups with my not-so-perfect-but-not-bad-either body, thinking, "Okay. I'm not exactly a looker. But not the worst thing around the block. I'm young, fun, and sometimes funny. WHY AREN'T I GETTING ANY DATES?"
These are the days when you psychoanalyze yourself and decide that you are either A) Hopeless, B) Trying too hard, or C) it's not really you, it's the rest of the world that is screwed up. I decided to lay the blame on the men, still not quite understanding the quality of a good and decent woman versus the hot bombshell in a mini-skirt.
But there was also another thought that crossed my mind: maybe the men just don't understand what the latest "chick magnet" was.
We've all heard it before in "Friends" and other quirky sit-coms. The 'Babies & Puppies' that strike up the conversation with women. Those were the days when women 'aww...'ed and 'that is SO sweet!'ed at men with the maternal side. But the women of the 21st century are harder to please - injected with Sex and the City mantra and *gasp!* a career. No longer are babies and puppies "cute" but also pose a threat to the "independent woman" image that they want to create. Are there no more props for guys to attract women?
Have no fear, gentlemen. The new "chick magnet" are gay men.
Observe, exhibit A:
My roommate is a fine specimen of a homosexual male. Cute, good personality, fun, and smells nice. He is constantly surrounded by his female colleagues and adored. Not only that, my girlfriends who have only met him once or twice keep on asking me whether he will be coming over to parties.
What does this have to do with my initial rant? Well, for starters, if the heterosexual males got over their machismo about being associated with gay men in fear of being accidentally mistaken as one, they would find that the cute, gay guys also attract the cute chicks. And when your cute, gay friend introduce you to these cute chicks, you've got a whole flock who will think you are cool for being confident about your sexuality. Not only that, since they can't have your cute, gay friend, they'll eventually look to the heterosexual in you.
This is where I should stop to be eitehr criticized as a judgemental freak or an incredible genius. Either way, it seemed like a win-win idea to me. ... But seeing how only one of the sexes has figure this theory out, it will take another decade till it is actually put into practice.
These are the days when you psychoanalyze yourself and decide that you are either A) Hopeless, B) Trying too hard, or C) it's not really you, it's the rest of the world that is screwed up. I decided to lay the blame on the men, still not quite understanding the quality of a good and decent woman versus the hot bombshell in a mini-skirt.
But there was also another thought that crossed my mind: maybe the men just don't understand what the latest "chick magnet" was.
We've all heard it before in "Friends" and other quirky sit-coms. The 'Babies & Puppies' that strike up the conversation with women. Those were the days when women 'aww...'ed and 'that is SO sweet!'ed at men with the maternal side. But the women of the 21st century are harder to please - injected with Sex and the City mantra and *gasp!* a career. No longer are babies and puppies "cute" but also pose a threat to the "independent woman" image that they want to create. Are there no more props for guys to attract women?
Have no fear, gentlemen. The new "chick magnet" are gay men.
Observe, exhibit A:
My roommate is a fine specimen of a homosexual male. Cute, good personality, fun, and smells nice. He is constantly surrounded by his female colleagues and adored. Not only that, my girlfriends who have only met him once or twice keep on asking me whether he will be coming over to parties.
What does this have to do with my initial rant? Well, for starters, if the heterosexual males got over their machismo about being associated with gay men in fear of being accidentally mistaken as one, they would find that the cute, gay guys also attract the cute chicks. And when your cute, gay friend introduce you to these cute chicks, you've got a whole flock who will think you are cool for being confident about your sexuality. Not only that, since they can't have your cute, gay friend, they'll eventually look to the heterosexual in you.
This is where I should stop to be eitehr criticized as a judgemental freak or an incredible genius. Either way, it seemed like a win-win idea to me. ... But seeing how only one of the sexes has figure this theory out, it will take another decade till it is actually put into practice.
